Saturday, December 31, 2011

Christmas in Japan

In general, Christmas is no big deal here. Of course, they have tons of Christmas decorations and light ups everywhere. Sometimes even more than what we have back home, which is weird, because they don't actually celebrate it. Families with young children might buy some presents for the kids, but once they reach junior high school, it's over. Same applies to birthday in most families. Couples might go on a special Christmas date, and friends might organize Christmas parties, not to feel lonely if there's no boyfriend or girlfriend around. Twisted.
Also, we are supposed to save energy because of the March disaster, remember?? Well, with this much light up and wasting electricity, I wonder what their idea of saving energy is.  Just look up "Nabana no sato".Here's the link: http://www.esankei.com/ryokou/sp/nabana.html .  It's in Mie prefecture, not so far from here. It's a gorgeous and unbelievably huge light art creation, but c'mon, do we really need this, while some people in the North/East are still struggling to get back to their normal lives? They used 5800000 LED lights to do the Mount Fuji thing only....Not that I don't want to go and see it at least once in my life. However, this year, due to that disaster, we could be a bit more modest...shouldn't we?
Christmas decorations in Umeda, Osaka
I tried to make our Christmas as European as possible. My Mom had sent us chocolate ornaments and the famous Hungarian "szaloncukor", which in mirror translation would be "parlour candy", as in old times the Christmas tree used to be displayed in the parlour, so guests would be able to admire it when entering the house.They come in all kinds of flavours and beautiful, stylish wrapping. If you happen to travel to Hungary in winter, you definitely should try them. 
I spent about 2 hours on skype on Christmas Eve, talking to my parents, opening presents. In my family, we open the presents in the evening of the 24th. Some families do it on the 25th. So I neatly placed the presents we got from my parents under the tree. We did "kampai" (the Japanese equivalent of "cheers") with some "umeshu" plum liquor and ate a Christmas cake I did from ready made materials in about 15 minutes. I refuse to spend too much time in the kitchen during winter season, due to the extremely poor insulation of Japanese homes. It's freakin' cold!!
But yeah, it was  a nice Christmas, despite the fact that I was away from home. Never happened at Christmas before...LOL.. It was really busy, especially buying and sending tons of presents back home to friends and family.  But hey, I totally enjoyed it! :)

The cake, our tree, the candies, the presents and the plum drinks :)

I don't have any Japanese style New Year's decoration in my home, but I've seen a few really nice ones displayed in shop windows. Next year is going to be the year of the dragon, so obviously, most of the decorations include dragons! 


By the way, how do you like my new visitor counter little globe on the right? I found it on another blog, tracked it down, and installed on my page too. Pretty cool, huh? Now you'll be able to see, how many visitors I have, and from which part of the world!! I could check it in my stats since I started this blog, but the info wasn't visible on the blog.

Friday, December 30, 2011

600 Page Views

Today I checked my blog and it has just reached 600 page views!!! Wow! 
Thanks guys! Thanks to all of you who have read it at least once! Tons of thanks to my regular readers! 
Special thanks to those who bothered to comment!
Today, at least one more post is coming up...after I did the laundry...soooo STAY TUNED!

Monday, December 26, 2011

Have a Merry Little Christmas...♪






Well, it's here again! The most beautiful and emotional celebration of the year. Having only a plastic tree, unfortunately, this year without the magical scent of Blue Spruce or Nordmann Pine... 
But I made wonderful soft gingerbread cookies. 
Anyway, I don't have much time to write today or tomorrow, but I promise that I'll update the blog before New Year's and, in 2O12 I'll write more often. I have tons of stories to share with you, it's just hard to find the time to type them.

So, once more, I wish you all a Wonderful and Happy Christmas, hoping that you can celebrate it together with your loved ones.

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

Santa comes to Japan

Today is the 6th of December! Which means that Santa comes!!! Yes people, in Hungary, Germany, and maybe a few other countries, Santa comes on Saint Nicholas Day, and not Christmas! We clean and prepare our shoes, so Santa can put presents into them. The custom is that Santa brings the presents either in the evening of the 5th or morning of the 6th of December.

 I decided for the sake of our future family, that we are going to keep this custom alive even in Japan! So, I got these plastic boots, which look real cute and are sold for Christmas, got some European Santa shaped chocolate, and both of us bought a little present for one another. :)


Cute, aren't they? Of course the blue is mine :)
Santa shaped American chocolate. We also had
some European Kinder buenos.

Santa from Mom and Dad :) Kinder, Milka, Haribo, etc...all the delicious European stuff!!!


Also, with perfect timing, Mom's Santa arrived by post this evening too! Wow, tonns of delicious chocolate! And Christmas candy that we often give on this day, and also use for decorating the Christmas tree. Yummiiiiiiieeee.


I got this  chocolate advent calendar a few weeks ago. You can buy them in most import food selling supermarkets for about 600-800 yen. I hope I'll be able to make this Christmas like the one  at home. This is going to be the first ever Christmas that will be only the two of us, and I'll stay in Japan. Of course, it's going to be a bit lonely without family, but hey, we have skype :) and, as you can see, decoration and stuff for celebration you can find here as well. The meaning of Christmas here is not deep at all, but you can make it deep in your own heart. So why bother about how, or whether or not other people celebrate it ;)

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Halloween party and a creative new hobby

Wow, it's been quite a while since the last entry. Things have gone a bit out of hand lately. I've been sort of busy working 6 days a week...and came down with a cold last Friday, for which I had to skip a drinking party that night, and call in sick on Saturday. My high school job was not busy at all, I guess it's just the lack of sleep...is taking a toll on my body right now. Gotta be more careful from now on, after all the cold and flu season just started. Man, I hope I won't get the flu this winter either. That would suck big time.

Anyway, since the last entry a lot of things have happened. First of all I had two Halloween parties. One at the language school for sexy Marie Antoinette, and one at the high school for Marie Antoinette's ghost...

The King and Queen of France :)

Also, I could finally finish the embroidery on my denim jacket a few weeks ago. Here we still have about 22 C everyday, so it wasn't too late. I can still enjoy wearing it, before the actual winter comes. Probably by the end of November. The design is similar to the famous Kalocsa embroidery of Hungary, except that I'm not a pro, so this is as good as it gets. How you like it? 


 


























 It took about a month in total, usually not spending more than about an hour each day. It wasn't as difficult as a I thought it would be. Haven't done any embroidery since junior high school...about what, 15 years ago??? Wow...I'm getting old. Anyway, I went home this summer and met up a college friend who is also an English teacher, but as a side job she does this on quite a professional level. Thanks to a bit of practice with her, and getting patterns from her book, I was able to do this. It was fun. I might continue this hobby. :)

Thursday, October 20, 2011

School for special needs children

This Monday, with the Aussie teacher, we went to our sort of field trip to a special school for physically and mentally challenged children. We were supposed to teach two short, 15 minutes lessons, one to junior high kids, and the other to elementary 2nd and 3rd grade kids..

To be honest, the night before I got really nervous...I was terrified. My experience in elementary school was a rather horrible one, and I never intended to teach kids again. Even this trip was supposed to be just a trip to that school, take a look around and come back thing. One day, all the teachers from my school went, and we were supposed to go with them, but they canceled for some reason...still have no idea why.
They asked us later if we wanted to go, if we have a chance again, and I said yes. After teaching in so many different schools, I wanted to know what this kind of schools are like. Then turns out, this time it's only the two of us going (plus one teacher to help us with Japanese), and well, why not killing two birds with a stone, they asked if we could teach two lessons. We were taken advantage of...as often is the case. Whatever...at least we can try out ourselves I thought.

Anyway, the big day came, and I woke up with a headache, in a really bad mood.  I cursed myself thinking "curiosity killed the cat, and gonna kill me too...I should have said no". But how could I? Our principal is the kindest Japanese woman I've ever known, she came to the school the same time I did, and she was a principal in such a special school before. I could never turn down her offer or say no to her request. So, I added a 400 mg Panadol to my breakfast and headed to my school. We talked a bit about what we would do there...that made me less nervous. At least we had a plan.

The vice principal of the other school came and picked us up by her car. The principal and all the other teachers we met at the special school, called "Shien Gakko" in Japanese, were very kind and welcoming. I didn't feel out of place there at all. My headache was gone too. 
We went to the junior high kids first. They were about elementary 3rd grade 4th grade level, 8 students in total. Classes here are much smaller, usually with about 3 teachers supervising the kids.  I was surprised that some of them knew the alphabet, and with a help of a chart they could write their names in English. They were all cheerful and friendly...maybe more friendly than my self-conscious regular students. We played fruits basket game with colours, everyone enjoyed it. I was relieved. 

Then we went to the elementary school kids...they were a bit more difficult to teach, because there were a lot of students. You would think 26 is not a big number when you face classes of 40 students everyday. However, I have to admit, 26 is a big number when it comes to kids who are mentally or physically disabled, or have some behavioral problems. They were constantly jumping around and screaming. 5 classes together. Probably it would have been a better idea to teach only one class at a time. Somehow we survived, passing time with shaking hands, some kids were eager to hi5 us :) So cute. Some of them just came up to us, and hugged.  We had flying shoes and a pig, long minutes of screaming, and one kid even practiced for days to say "Thank you" when our lesson was over.  

Honestly, these kids made me feel so much better. By the end of the trip I just felt happy. That's what the principal was telling me about before, but you wouldn't understand until you have the experience. I think I'm lucky I had the chance to go there and meet these kids. They are far more adorable than those spoiled  little brats I taught at those regular elementary schools. 

We even got some presents: a small hand towel from the kids, a box of Halloween cookies and hand made tissue case covers (made by the principal's wife) from the principal. They asked if we could come again, once in a semester (there are 3 semesters in one school year here), and we said yes without thinking. 
The neatly wrapped presents.

The hand towel: designed for the school.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Getting in mood for Halloween

This is my new love in the kitchen!!! I ordered this cake stand on the internet from Rakuten...it's like the Japanese version of Amazon. As you can see from the packaging, you can use it to display not only desserts but other food as well. Can't wait to have a luxury Continental breakfast at the weekend with my boyfriend. Unfortunately I gotta get up so early on weekdays, I just force down a bowl of cereals and rush to the train station....

Also, it means I can throw some lavish home parties, coz now I have everything to serve a stylish lunch or dinner! Can't wait to actually have some friends over. I don't know if I have mentioned it here already, but my hobby is baking sweets and stuff...so...maybe a smaller Christmas or New Year's Party would be nice. Of course with a limited number of people. The apartment is small and we don't have enough chairs either...lol
It just would look soooo gorgeous with a Christmas cake on top, some gingerbread cookies in the middle, and maybe a few orange chocolate cupcakes in the bottom. Or beigli? But I don't think I can make beigli... (Hungarian Christmas rollcake)...I don't think I could find all the ingredients here, plus it's troublesome. Well...we'll see.

And here are some Halloween cookies I made last weekend, mainly for my co-workers. They are just simple vanilla butter cookies with royal icing. It was the first time I tried royal icing, and turned out pretty good. Although it was quite time consuming, but I guess it's gonna get better with experience.




I was trying to be very Japanese her. I wrapped them all up in Halloween cellophane bags and put them in a lovely box. 
Looks pretty cool, huh?

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Fall has come...

I just noticed it's been a while since my last post. Things got a bit busy here after coming back from holidays, and the school year started. We had a cultural festival, which was quite fun. All the clubs and classes of all grades performed dances, plays, showed videos they made, and played music. They were wearing nice costumes, and had a few games and competitions. I might post a few videos later I took about the performances. 

About 3weeks ago, we saw in TV program we regularly watch a special Hawaiian pancake. It's called Haupia, and is basically pancake with OMG Delicious & Creamy Coconut Sauce...Last weekend was a 3 days weekend, so we went there again. The restaurant is in Tenma, very close to the station, it's called Mauloa. Even though it was a long weekend, the place was not crowded and we could indulge ourselves in coconut flavoured stuff....by accident everything we ordered this time had coconuts LOL. My Prince ate coconut curry, while I enjoyed my haupia, and we shared a volcano (a frozen drink made of coconut milk, pineapple juice and strawberry sauce). The urge to travel to Hawaii just got stronger...good old ABBA..".money, money, money....If I had a little money"....I would totally move to Hawaii.





Drink, curry and pancakes...





My Love-HAUPIA


Also, Halloween is coming up. Ever since my first Halloween party in Japan, I was always wearing the same witch costume I bought at Claire's. I always said, next year I'm gonna be something different. That plan was never realized...until now!!! YEP! I bought a new costume...actually, two costumes. Carefully thinking about my personality and rank :) I decided on somebody, who would be a perfect match: Marie Antoinette. One of the costumes is a beautiful long blue dress (I'm going to change the bows though, coz those look cheap), the other one is a sexy version of Marie. A beautiful fuchsia and gold minidress with black lace decoration. I also got a matching wig, and some victorian shoes ( those were the closest match I could find). The website had a special 20-50% off campaign, so I didn't even pay too much for these 4 items. The long dress I plan to wear at the high school for a special Halloween lesson, and the mini dress I'll wear at the language schools drinking-Halloween party. I'm soooo EXCITED!!!
wig
the Victorian boots



...and the dresses... :D




Except for the special Halloween lesson, we have a few other fun things going on at school. With the Aussie teacher we started showing the kids movies in English in lunch time. Also, we were invited to visit a a school for special needs children and do two lessons, one for elementary and one for junior high school age kids, who are mentally challenged. We are now planning the lessons. I'm a bit nervous about the outcome.




Sunday, September 18, 2011

Friendships in Japan

The other day I found an article in the Japan Times ( our school subscribed to it, and we get it delivered every morning) about friendships here. First I didn't know what to think, as it was written by a person who usually writes about Japanese culture pointing out bad things mainly. He wrote how difficult it is to make real friends here, and he basically have no Japanese friends at all, only foreigners.

However, the next day issue featured a number of comments from readers on this topic, and it was very interesting to read. Other foreigners (British, American, Indian, etc.) wrote about their own experiences, and suddenly I realized it is not just me, who feels so terribly lonely in this country, being unable to make friends with Japanese people. They pointed out a few things, such as friendships tend to have an expiry date. I think they called it "natural shelf life". Such occasions, such as we NETs changing schools, or Japanese pople getting tranferred to different branches of their companies, often terminate friendships, simply because it will become troublesome to meet outside work. Also, in Japan, people make most of their friends throughout elementary, junior high and high schools and colleges. When they become work force, it is difficult to make friends at the workplace, due to this superior and subordinate relationship thing, that people take very seriously here. Even if you don't like your superior (senpai) you have to show great respect, and basically do anything he/she asks you to do. 

It is just so true. I've thought many times that I finally succeeded making friends, but when I got transferred somewhere else, even if it was in the same town, those people just faded out...every single one of them. Another thing mentioned was that sharing private information is quite different. Some topics I could freely discuss with my best friend back home, I would never be able to talk about to a Japanese friend, no matter how close.It happened to me many times that I was asked some personal question (they often think here it's all right to ask some blunt questions from foreigners, because our culture is more opened), I answred and asked back "So, how about you?", and what I got was often awkward silence or some vague answer I had no idea what it actually meant. Or for example, if they get sick, they don't get in touch with you about, not to cause incovenience by making you worry or something. I have first hand experience in this field as well. 

Then there is the lack of actual meeting. I have a number of Japanese acquaintences, whom I originally thought were friends, but kind of graded them down, we were close while working or studying at the same place, but after that, even if we occasionally keep in touch, and if I would ask to meet up, I wouldn't get a straight answer, just a kind of maybe. Then usually we don't meet. Keeping in touch seems to be fine for them, but the lot of overtime work and stress makes it just stressful for them to actually meet their "friends" more often than a couple of times a year. If I had a real friend living in the same city, we would meet up like, what?, every weekend, or once or twice a month at least.

These are things that I learned from those comments and my experiences. I bet many people would agree with me when I say that this country is the loneliest  in the world. After spending 5 years here, there is only one person that I would call my true and close friend. We met on the internet, when I was in high school, she let me homestay at her place when I first visited Japan, she is like a big sister to me. But even with her, we keep in touch online, and for different reasons, we usually don't meet more than once or twice a year.  I wish we could but again, I believe it would be considerable stress to her nag her all the time to meet me. So, I have to accept it. Yeah, it is very lonely most of the time, but that few hours we can spend together are always so enjoyable that it makes up for the loneliness of waiting. Therefore I'm glad to wait. But believe me, there are very few people that are worth this waiting. I'm glad that at least I found her. One of the people commenting on the article was a woman, staying in Japan for 20 years, without any real Japanese friends. And her situation seems to be quite a common thing. I guess we are just not supposed to measure friendships here the way we measure beck home. If there would be a switch we could push to change attitude, that would be grate. But we don't have, so we have to put up with our misery. Accept that we will always be foreigners first, and not friend material human beings for most people. There will always be people out there who just want to practice English with you, and fade out as soon as your Japanese ability improves, and allows you to do everyday conversation in Japanese.

So, if you want to come here, don't really hope for long-time besties, because most likely it's not gonna happen, or not in the way you want to. Make sure you're on facebook and try to keep in touch with the other foreigners here, if you want people you can hang out with outside work.
I hope this information helps you guys and gave you some insight into the difficulties of life here. Although I believe, this is not a phenomenon true only in Japan. I guess it is almost always the case when cultures so different meet.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Lunatics and Marie Antoinette

The three weeks back home was refreshing. When I came back I felt that I loved my job again...I still feel like that and it feels good. :) It was good to see my co-workers at the language school, those guys are fantastic. We even had a yukata (summer kimono) party the first Saturday I was back. I had so much fun! Although I'm not really a party person, but recently I feel like partying many times. I want more people around me, and just relax. Too bad that my stomach condition prevents me from drinking...

The people at my high school are the same boring as before. They don't talk to each other much, they do talk to me sometimes, but we just can't find anything in common. The kids just came back to school today, so the past two weeks were very quiet and we had not much to do. It felt like living in slow motion.

Then one day, I was standing in line to board the train. In Japan people always stand in two lines, right beside each other. I got to the front in my line, and a middle aged chubby woman, wearing a mask, was standing near me. The train stopped, but the doors were about 20-30 cms to the left from where we were standing. My line was the left and I moved to the left a little bit. Then this woman next to me made a few steps to the left, bumping right into me. Then bumped into me again. And again...as if she was afraid she can't be the first to get on and won't be able to sit down. It all happened in a few seconds, but after the third time of her shoulder hitting mine, I just lost my cool and told her in an angry tone in Japanese to stop. She seemed to apologize at first bowing a bit, but then she looked at me and started mumbling something under her mask that I totally couldn't hear. I wonder if she started cursing me when she saw I was a foreigner. Both of us could actually sit down on the train, she opposite to me, staring at me angrily all the way. I couldn't care less, so just put my earphones in and listened to some great 90`s stuff, closing my eyes and relaxing. The next thing I know is that the trains stops one stop before my station, I open my eyes, that woman is about to get off. She suddenly turns, comes back, stops right in front of me and gives me the finger!!! LOL I almost burst out laughing, it was so ridiculous of her, and wow, you should have seen those faces. The other passengers, who had no idea what happened before, they were just totally horrified.
The only thing that made me feel bad is that this woman really seemed to be a psycho, and I heard rumors from friends that there actually are people out there who enjoy pushing others in front of the train killing them. So I decided to change my boarding point from the 5th car to the 9th, and hope that I won't ever meet her again. I might even take the earlier train sometimes to make sure she won't ever stand behind me in line. There are scary people out there! Be careful everyone!

Last week, celebrating the strength of yen on the international market, I bought two Halloween costumes. Yes, that's right! Marie Antoinette, both of them. Got a wig, a pair of Victorian boots (not really Marie style but better than nothing), a long Marie dress for a Halloween lesson we plan doing at the high school with the Aussie teacher, and a short sexy one for the Halloween party of the language school. At first I didn't like the idea of the short one, feeling that it's kind of disappointing that they like to portrait Marie Antoinette as a whore. However, my boyfriend pointed out that sexy costumes are only for young people, so I should try before it's gonna be too late, and I regret it. So I bought it, but obviously I can't wear a mini dress to high school, so the long one was necessary too. The shorty is real pretty, beige and magenta colours. The long one is light blue with some white lace and a few pink ribbons at the front. Those pink ribbons I really don't like, so I`ll make some minor changes before wearing it. 

Of course I'll post pictures wearing them ;)

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Hi People! My dear readers!

Sorry for the one month silence! Went back home for 3 weeks to relax a bit. Just got back last Sunday, but the past week was a bit busy, working 6 days a week, right from Monday.
Now I'm gonna go to sleep, because it's Sunday evening and another long week is ahead of me, and of you guys too probably.  Anyway, I'll be back soon, hopefully with some interesting posts!



Thursday, July 28, 2011

An alien eating chicken paprika on Mars

Last Saturday I came home to visit my family. Recently I don't really like flying, however this time I had a pleasant flight. Used Finnair as usual. Their entertainment system is pretty good, and this time, they had a live recording of Bon Jovi's The Circle tour!!! Two hours of FUN, the rest I was asleep, or eating :). 


I arrived at 6:30 pm, my parents picked me up, and we were on the way to Grandma, who was waiting for me with my favourite dish: chicken paprika. This is a yummiie chicken stew flavoured with, in this case, sweet paprika powder. Just take a look at it! Doesn't it look delicious?

It's a traditional Hungarian meal. I tried to cook it in Japan several times, but the ingredients are somewhat different....so is the taste.
I've spent my days so far with shopping and meeting with friends.  Might write about it later. Still a bit jet lagged, plus my dog always wants me to play with him, and I can't say no, and we play till I drop half-dead, so gonna go to sleep. ZZZzzzzzzz......

Sunday, July 17, 2011

A lifesaver....

Recently, I've totally lost motivation in my job. The past few weeks was the time for the end term tests, so we didn't have to teach. If I have a week off, going to school but not teaching...well, I appreciate that. I have time to check handouts, prepare the next lesson etc. However, it's been two weeks of no lessons, and next week's gonna be the same. We will have the term closing ceremony and students will start the holidays. 3 weeks without lessons, and without any information what we are going to do next term...so I can't even spend my time with preparations...so I started spending time thinking about decorating the English room.

It's called the "international language room" or something, but it only has the flags of the 5 English speaking countries: Canada, Australia, the U.K., the U.S. and New Zealand. I thought we could go a bit more diverse...after all English is not restricted to communication with native speakers only. 
Also the other NET, James, promised to bring a few nice posters, if he can find, from Australia. I hope he can get some colourful stuff. 

So, I'm practically bored to death at work these days. Having no classes is not fun. I try to contact the kids in the library, sometimes I walk around after school and chat a bit with the girls of the dance club, or any other club I ran into. The biggest lifesaver however, was cable TV!!! 
Doesn't help the situation at school, but at least I don't have to watch boring, irritating and ridiculous Japanese talk shows any more. My Prince ordered it through the internet last week. I didn't know it would take only a few days to get the device. He apparently had a day off that day, and when I went home, everything was in place! What a lovely surprise! And he wouldn't say anything about it, even though we texted each other a couple of times that day...LOL
Ever since, I'm glued to the screen: CSI: Miami, CSI: New York, NCIS, NCIS L.A., Bones, Sex an the City, Without a Trace, Criminal Minds, The Mentalist and N.Y.P.D. Blue. These are just a few of the TV shows I've been enjoying in the last couple of days. How refreshing!

I needed something, coz lately I've been pretty nervous jobwise. Since that fight with that female teacher I got pretty conscious of my accent, which makes me uncomfortable during the lessons, especially when I'm asked to practice the pronunciation of new words with the students. One of the teachers keeps inviting me and James to participate in his lessons, which I enjoy, except for the pronunciation practice part. Especially when a native speaker is present... 
I didn't have a problem with that initially, but the last two years I've always been compared to native speakers when it came to interviews and employment. I've had enough. I'm really happy there is another foreigner at my school, coz it makes me feel less isolated, but I'm worried about them comparing us to each other. I'm sure they do. That's human nature, we always compare things, people...everything. If I won't get a good evaluation at the end of the year, and they don't renew  my contract, I'm screwed. It's been bothering me for a while, and some of you might say I'm paranoid, but this is a job that took me 5 years to get (sadly that 5 years took a toll on my motivation level, that I'm trying to get back now with different kinds of therapies) and I can't afford to lose it. And if anything, I learned in the past few years not to trust anyone here, especially employers, and especially government related employers.  They say one thing, they think something else. That's how it works here. 

James has been here only for a few month, so he is totally not homesick, is full of energy and as I said before he is a gentleman. And he had no nasty experience of prejudice (except for the general things, like Japanese people wouldn't sit next to you on the train and so on.) I'm here, homesick, tired and not very tolerant, also having a low level of motivation...So, I really hope that my trip back home, going to give me new energy, so when I came back, I can be more like him. I can be tolerant again, I can be more friendly, and worry less about things. I really should change my attitude. I just feel angry most of the time...I guess it's the stress that just accumulated inside me, and I have to get rid of these negative things. and when I come back, I'll start the belly dance lessons at the dance school, to keep my spirits up, hopefully.  We will see. 
Anyway, I can't wait to go home for summer vacation!!!

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Chocolate, rashes, acrophobia and USJ

Recently I found a new brand of chocolate I really like. It's made in Germany, and it has 3 flavours...well, 3 types are sold here, there might be more. I especially like the bitter one (in the green wrap), I guess it might be because of this crazy hot and humid weather. You just don't feel like eating too sweet stuff. Still I have to cut down on sugar...I eat way too much ice cream, and drink sweet juices etc.



It seems that our rainy seaon is over :) YESSSSSS!!! Because I hate rain, and no, because the humidity is still the same, but you sweat even more than when it's cloudy... :( And I get itchy all over, and if I scratch my skin I get terrible rashes on my side and belly area. It started last year...I never had it before...ever, even while living in Japan, but I got it after all. The longer I stay here the more my body is rejecting this country it seems. Frostbites in winter because of the lack of insulation of houses, rashes and cracky joints in summer, due to the humidity... :((( These times I really think I want to live somewhere else... My new dream is to move to Hawaii someday, and live there forever.

Scool is going well recently. During test period I don't have much to do, except for correcting handouts we did in the class before, but these days I have more time to interact with students, and I'm getting more and more positive about the whole school. It's just that you should not expect too much :)

Yesterday I went to USJ (Universal Studios Japan- for those who don't know, it's a Disneyland like amusement park, only the attractions are based on Hollywood blockbuster movies, such as Jaws, Jurassic Park, Back to the Future, Spiderman and Terminator). It was fun, but I felt I'm getting old. Rides that I remember I had enjoyed, gave me nearly heart attacks and trembling limbs. It's either my age or my fear of heights got really bad during the past few years, and I truly become an acrophob. I enjoyed shopping the most, while I used to enjoy the rollercoaster rides. 

In two weeks I'm going to fly home for summer vacation. Can't wait!!! But due to that terrible earthquake in March, I'm worried about leaving my Prince (aka boyfriend) here alone. :(

Sunday, June 26, 2011

A short post and a new hobby :)

This week was pretty relaxed, all my lessons went well, and even that crazy woman was very kind and helpful. I'm still suspicious...after all a leopard can't change its spots, right?

But, let's stop talking about work! this week I was very excited, because my belly dance practice costume, that I ordered from the internet, finally arrived! Yep, yep! BELLY DANCE!
A few weeks ago we went to a Turkish restaurant with my friend, and there we saw a belly dance show. A few years ago I already went to a belly dance trial lesson at a dance school nearby, however, it was too difficult, plus my friend backed out, saying that she is too busy to take lessons...so I gave up. But when I saw that show, I just couldn't get it out of my head...and heart. I fell in love with belly dance...permanently.

This is my practice costume: 



So, what do you think? 

I already find a teacher too. She is from Uzbekistan, so she can speak English very well, plus I won't feel uncomfortable being the only foreigner in the class! Yay! I plant to start taking lessons from August. Until that, I'll practice at home, since there are numerous instruction videos uploaded to youtube.

Sunday, June 19, 2011

When all hell broke loose........

This week was pretty crazy...I'll try to be short this time.

I'm sure you remember last week's protagonist, the spinster Miss Fushimishi.
On Monday I had a lesson with Miss Fushimishi and she seemed to be a bit upset as usual. The class went well, and in the end the Australian teacher came in to prepare for the next class in the room. When we finished, I went to the back of the room where he and Miss Fushimishi were talking. When she looked at me, it was written on her face that she was about to explode. She immediately attacked me in a very disturbing tone: "You made a mistake!"...yeah, so what?- I wanted to say, but I disciplined myself and asked her what the problem was this time. She was mad, because I traslated the English verb "judge" into "discrimination" in Japanese. I did it because she was not helping me, and discrimination was so much easier to explain with gestures and words, than judge. The sentence was out of context, and after all discrimination is also a form of judgement, so I told her it wasn't that big of a mistake, so she should take it easy. Guess what she said! She said she checked it in the Bible!! Not in a dictionary, but in the Bible...Oh, God.
You see, I am a Christian (Roman Catholic to be precise), just like her. Christianity is not very popular in Japan, I think probably about 5 % of the nation is Christian, thus she is the first I met at work, and apparently she is one of those zealous Christians, who read the Bible, and probably go to church everyday and stuff...I don't even have a Bible at home. I do have internet :) and I go to church when I feel like it.

I thought it was over, when I went up to the staff room, where she was explaining to the other teachers what a grave mistake I made. I got pissed, but I just said I don't think it was a mistake, and I asked her what problem does she have with me, that when she can't find a mistake in my English, she tries to find it in my Japanese. (I didn't even say that word in Japanese, a kid said it when I explained how we judge people, and I accepted the word "discrimination" as a translation). Then she mentioned Friday's thing again, how rude I was to call her like that (on her family name, without using "Miss"- I actually said it, but she couldn't hear it it seems) . This time however, she claimed that I had called her like that three times.  I rejected that. Then she said in front of my co-workers: "You are a liar!"

In that very moment I lost my cool. I started shouting at her "What the hell is wrong with you?" How dare you accuse me like that? You have no right to complain about my lesson  if you don't ever help me in the classroom." She went too far. Then she said that I have been bothering her since I came to this school and stuff like that. The main teacher (one of the elder guys) said we should calm down and he's gonna listen to our stories one by one next week, but this week he is too busy. We didn't talk after for 3 days, and she wouldn't even greet me, even though I said "Good Morning" and "Good bye" to her every day. Oh, well...who cares. 

Wednesday evening I thought I'll give reconciliation a last try the next day. We had a lesson that day anyway, so I decided I'll talk to her. Next morning I was really surprised, she came in smiling and all too happy, and she was like that all day. When I asked her to talk, she gladly said yes. I apologized for shouting at her, and asked what her problem is with me. And guess what! She APOLOGIZED TO ME! Saying she was in a bad mood and after all we are "sisters" (referring to our common religion) and we should be friends. I froze. I accepted her apology and her request to be friends, but she didn't really wanted to tell me what her problem actually was with me...I didn't want to be pushy, so I gave up on finding that out. She also advised me that I should read the Bible in English and in Japanese to improve my Japanese...yeah, sure...

I'm quite happy we could make peace, but I can't stop thinking about what the hell had happened to her on Wednesday that she changed her mind (and seemingly her whole personality) all of a sudden...and that makes me suspicious. After all, she could just change back to her bitchy self anytime, so I should be careful from now on.... Maybe someone shagged her last Wednesday...who knows...In that case, I hope it's gonna happen regularly from now on.  I would even pay for the guy...lol

Sunday, June 12, 2011

A bunch of misunderstanding....

Oh God...what would you do if some of your colleagues are unable or unwilling to communicate with you, but you have to work as a team??!

I've been teaching second graders this week. There are 8 classes, broken down into 2 groups each, which means I have a total of 16 lessons, team teaching with 4 different teachers. Two elder man, a young lady, and an elder woman. The young lady and one of the elder guys are new to the school, just like me, and even though they don't have much team teaching experience, we can work together quite well. The other elder guy is the head teacher of the 2nd grade English teachers with lots of experience, the elder lady has been in this school for about 1 or 2 years, and she completely does nothing in the class. Goes to the back, sits down, and keeps staring as if she's Queen Elisabeth II or something...

My week started with her lesson. She walked in late, and when I asked her why the students have no textbook (the Japanese English teachers are responsible to notify the students what we need for the English lesson) she just stared at me, and said: -But Antonio never used a textbook!
GOD, I GOT SO PISSED!  How dare she think I'm the same as that Antonio guy, just because both of us are foreigners?!?!? Whatever....I kindly told her, that it was written in my lesson plan, that I handed to her last week, and I did my best to type it in Japanese. Guess what she said!!
"Oh, sorry, I haven't read this."
This was too much. Not only she just assumes that I'm the same person as the last NET, but she doesn't even bother to read my lesson plan. I guess it was the second time she didn't read it, because she did exactly the same (doing nothing) when we were teaching together the first time in April.

Okay, I thought - enough is enough. I went to the elder guy (the head teacher) and told him that with some teachers it's difficult to team-teach. He is the only one who is doing things in the class the way I would expect a Japanese teacher to do, so I asked him to give a demonstration lesson to all the other teachers sometime (especially this lady). He chose this elder lady's lesson to come in, and I said okay, but he should talk to this lady too, in advance, to make sure she's not offended. He said he would talk to her, then he came in, with the other teachers and did the demo lesson.

Well...it seems she got offended anyway. A few days later, when we had a teachers meeting, she just kept on talking about why the kind of team teaching I want is not good, and how I mistook the level of the students etc...We have a meeting every week, but until now she never said a word, now all of a sudden I become the target, just because I want her to participate in my lesson, unlike the foreigners she was used to, who don't want the Japanese teachers to do anything in their lessons. My, oh my.... I thought...whatever. Little did I know that it was just the beginning of her little vendetta.

It happened on Friday, and started as a normal lesson. Let's call this lady Miss Fushimishi. I was doing the lesson as usual, teaching conjunctions. At some part I needed a bit of explanation in Japanese, because the students didn't seem to get what I was trying to explain in very very easy English for long long minutes. So I said: "Let's hear a little explanation in Japanese from Miss Fushimishi". I tried to say the sentence slowly, so that she would recognize that I'm talking to her (because usually she tries to avoid looking at me, which means communication by eye-contact is pretty much impossible).l By the time I came to the Miss part of my sentence, she still wasn't looking at me, so I raised my voice a bit, when I said Fushimishi. She looked at me angrily, come to the board and said: "Don't call me Fushimishi! I'm much older than you. You are very rude!!"

I was bewildered. I totally had no idea why she got so pissed, but a few minutes later came the enlightenment that maybe she couldn't hear the beginning of what I said, including the Miss in front of her name. Geeez....I've been in Japan for 5 years, does she really think I don't know it's rude just to call someone's name without putting Mr or Miss in front of it, or -san after it. And apparently she thinks I would do that in front of the class. What a troublesome person, I thought, but I decided to tell her after the lesson, that I did call her "Miss" and I would apologize for whatever I did to piss her off, a little sacrifice for better lessons in the future.

I decided to go on with the lesson to the next example, starting with the word "unless". She was on her way to the back of the room where she usually sits, when I read out the example. Without even turning back to look at me, she corrected my intonation. I was so surprised I happened to say "What?!" Then she turned back. looked at me and said: "Because you always pronounce it (this) but it should be pronounced as (that)".
I couldn't believe she corrected my English in front of the students. It's an unwritten rule amongst teachers that you don't do that. It can do great harm to the image of the teacher. Yes, I do have a Central European accent, I never claimed I don't. Nor did I ever claim I'm a native teacher of the English language, but I'm proud of my accent. Even the Australian teacher said that he thinks it's charming :). This lady, however, is obsessed with America and American English. 

I don't know if she was just seeking revenge for what she thought I did to her, or if she is one of those English teachers who hate foreigners. Unfortunately there are people like that here. Two groups to be precise. One is the group of Japanese English teachers whose pride is hurt by the presence of a foreigner  (any foreigner), so they hate all of us. (I have to add here that there are a bunch of idiots among native speakers who are rude, and deserve no respect.) The second group consists of those Japanese  (English teachers or anyone else) who only hate foreigners who are not native speakers of English. They believe that Native English teachers are beneficial for this country, but any other nationalities, including other Asians, Europeans, South Americans or Africans, are useless, and therefore shouldn't be here.  To put it simply, they are racist.

I have met  quite a few of each group, giving me unpleasant experiences. However, I have to state that most Japanese people I have met so far, are very friendly and open-minded indeed. They love to talk to people from any countries, and want to learn about their cultures. The two groups I mentioned above are just a minority. Thank God!
Well...I guess there are stupid people everywhere in the world, right? I wonder if you guys have any such experience with troublesome co-workers. Let me know if you have and also tell me how you solved the problem.

In my case I apologized to her and told her she misunderstood what I said. She said, "I see, I didn't hear you said Miss." But she never apologized to me...oh well.
That time I was too pissed to talk to her more, but on Monday I'm going to tell her that if she has any problem with my accent or anything about my English, she should talk to me about it outside the classroom.  I won't tell her this, but if she continues ruining my image in the class I'm going to make fun of her Japanese accent too, and I will correct all of her mistakes, in front of her students.

If she wants war, I don't care. But then, she should be prepared to lose!

Sorry guys for this long post, but I really needed to share it with somebody.
Thanks for reading.

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

祝!九州 九州新幹線全線開CM180秒

Hey People! This is the Japan I love!

Many people often accuse me that i always complain about Japan, but that is not entirely true. I do have quite  few complaints that stem from cultural differences or differences of lifestyles.  I have to admit that having spent almost 5 years here, doesn't make it so much easier. There are still plenty of things I couldn't get used to, and I'm afraid I'll never be able to get used to, such as the lack of proper heating in winter, the overuse of air-conditioners in the summer, and the huge crowds of people that the train cars are crammed with every morning and evening rush hours.

Despite all of these though, there is a Japan I very much like indeed. The Japan where people are grateful, the Japan where they stick together, the Japan where they like having fun. Today, I'm going to share with you a video; it is a commercial made to celebrate the new shinkansen line that connects Kyushu island to Honshu. It was opened in March this year, but due to the massive earthquake, this CM was broadcasted only for 3 days on Japanese television. It became very popular on the internet, however. The thousand of people you will see in this video are all ordinary folks, who saw the JR (Japan Railways, a private company that runs the shinkansens) advertisement in a newspaper, asking people who felt grateful for the new train line to come near the rails at a given time, so they can videotape them welcoming the first bullet train ever to arrive!

I don't think it would be possible in Hungary for example, to shoot such a movie. I don't think I would go to celebrate any new lines of MÁV....except for the intercity trains, I don't really think we reach the EU standards. Although I have to admit, I haven't used Hungarian Railways in the past few years, butI was a regular customer before I came to Japan. And well...the people's attitude is also different...I guess LOL.

Hey, anyway, enjoy the video! I have to admit I was so moved, that it made me cry :) I'm too sentimental, I guess. I put the link here, and I will try to post the video directly in my next post...I can't figure out how I can combine posting a video diorectly, plus adding text....aghhh...

http://youtu.be/UNbJzCFgjnU 

Monday, May 23, 2011

Crocodile dundee and drunken public servants

So, the rumor was true. Another native teacher (T-NET) came. (Just for you to know NETs like me work sort of full time 5 days a week and have 20 days paid holidays plus public holidays only, while T-NETs are kind of part time, they might work from 1 up to 5 days a week, they have unpaid summer and winter vacations.)
I was expecting someone young, as most foreigners who come here to teach are in their twenties or thirties, and I was praying for that person to be a woman. I thought it would help the work relationship and we would have many things in common and so on. Then, on Thursday two weeks ago, a teacher came up to me and said, this is the profile of the T-Net who is coming tomorrow.
58 years old male from Australia...and the first thing that came into my mind was Crocodile Dundee. God save us from some Australian Tarzan. What the heck is someone doing in Japan at the age of 58? I wondered. I was hoping it means he is an interesting person who does things differently. The paper said he just arrived recently to Japan. Well, well...good old me, lets put aside that bit of prejudice against Tarzans and Croc Dundees and we'll see what happens. After all, I actually like Dundee it's just that he wouldn't make a good teacher...LOL...not for English I guess. Could teach good survival skills though.
Then he arrived. Let's call him James. My first impression was that he could easily be a Benedictine monk, balding on the top of his head. His friendly and easygoing face seemed to support this idea too. Turns out he works at a university in Brisbane, he's intelligent (meaning he knows his mother tongue's grammar amongst a lot of other things... it might sound rude, but for native speakers it used to be quite rare, recently they become stricter about employment,but there are still quite a few morons who come here pretending to teach, but they actually just want the money and have fun) and he is well educated in many other subjects as well.. We had great talks so far. Both of us were invited to the school's drinking party last Friday.

So I went. He didn't show up, and we couldn't even contact him, since he has no Japanese cell phone yet. You have to get your alien registration card before you can purchase a phone or sim card here....This week he works only two days, I don't know which days, but today he didn't come to work. I wonder what happened. Maybe he got lost. Some teachers were frantically looking for him, but the party was around one of the biggest and busiest stations. Of course they couldn't find him.
Thus, I enjoyed the party as the only foreigner. I got lucky and had nice neighbors at my table, two of them English teachers. We ate Chinese food at a pretty posh place, which also organizes wedding parties. With the other young female English teacher we were about to leave, when some others invited us for an after party....uhm...why not, I thought.
It was a big big mistake to say yes. I never have thought that drunk people are so annoying if you yourself are not drunk. Oh, God! My luck left me when the seating was decided. On my right I had an elderly female English teacher, the bitter lady I talked about before; recently she is pretty positive and it's quite enjoyable to have a talk with her. She was my last bit of luck, because on my other side I had a totally drunk vice-principal and opposite was a young man, some former science teacher. The former was constantly trying to force me to eat some beans that I kept refusing, the latter seemed to be friendly at first, but then was trying to hit on me big time, even though he had a girlfriend. Appalling. Plus, we went to some goddamn sushi bar which served only fish and sea food. Thank God I ate enough at the first place, so it didn't really matter, except for the disgust I had when they served some flying fish with the cut off head as a decoration on the plate. I still considered myself lucky that they didn't order lobster or shrimp. I would have thrown up probably.

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

The Whiteboard Accident

The other day I was a bit late and had to rush to class. I was doing my first lesson, a kind of self introduction using the computer with the projector and the whiteboard. I got there just when the chime went on, set up everything in a hurry and started my lesson.

The whiteboard marker I used ran out of ink, so I grabbed another.  When the lesson ended and I was about to clean the board I had to realize that I can't erase the words....first I was like, God, I picked the poster marker that is for regular paper...then I started panicking...what if I can't erase it? After all it's the schools property, I don't want to buy a white board.

I gave the marker a closer look. It said the base is oil...hmmm....I ran to the cleaning lady and borrowed a bottle of detergent. It worked, but I was rubbing the board for about 30 minutes and I felt so dumb...LOL.....well, I'm blond, I guess I can afford it.

It wasn't until I went home that my boyfriend told me: the easiest way to clear it off would have been to write on top of the poster marker with a whiteboard marker and erase it. Just a practical advice if any of you ever needs it... (^-^)v